media rants: Nobody Wants This

Stoplight in Vienna, 2 lovers holding hands

I have been single for 7 years at this point after my failed high school relationship as an early teenager. It's embarrassing to admit but after that breakup I still think; am I loveable? will someone ever love me?

Nobody Wants This, is a romcom that is pure genius about a Rabbi and Podcaster's developing romance, depicting the challenges of romance in cultural differences, security in oneself, and managing your priorities.

Despite the challenges surrounding how they may navigate the cultural differences, even when it includes Crazy Rich Asians level difficulties regarding family approval, the relationship is so healthy. This made me reflect on depictions of relationships in film; whilst we typically expect screaming, crying and eventually grovelling... the main leads just talk.

They show how the key to healthy and thriving relationships; romanic, familial or platonic is to be vulnerable with the other person. It is only when we open ourselves to others, it is only when we allow someone to truly see us the way we are that we can accept the love that others may have for us.

It had me reflecting on my own love live the past few years, and whilst I have had crushes on people, and may have gotten myself into some talking stages and situationships (although not explicitly), I have come to realise that my fear of being vulnerable for the other person has stopped some potentially really great relationships from happening. Being vulnerable romantically is one of the most difficult things that one can do.

So when I ask, am I loveable? will someone ever love me? the answer is only if I am vulnerable enough to accept the love.